How do you deal with anger?

She just said something. Ooops! She should have never said that. You are so angry you can't even see anything. You want to break everything around you. You want to ...you want to....! STOP!
Stop and wait. Hold your breath. Close your eyes. Turn around if you can. Sit or liedown if you can. Keep telling yourself, "Stop! Stop! Stop!..." Don't say it outloud. Just keep repeating it to yourself. Do not deal with it at spot. Bite your tongue. Force yourself not to respond.
If she is not leaving you in peace and keeps asking for respond, just tell her this: "Right or wrong, I am angry now! I don't want to say anything to regret afterwards. I suggest you to do the same!" If she continued, leave the room. If you are stuck in the same place, just turn around, or look away, and keep repeating it to her, until she gives up.
Don't worry! You will not forget the event. You will remember it and you will respond to it. You will respond to it, but in a better condition. When you are still angry but you are not like a bowl of boiling water anymore.
Everybody knows that they can make better decisions when they are not emotional.
When you are back to the subject to respond, or when you are thinking about it on how to respond, always think, "What brought us together at the first place? Was that love? Where is that love now? How long we have been together? Are there attachments in our relationship? Is there any child involved? How would they react if they see us like this? How does that affect their future? What you 2 have done for each other throughout your relationship."
And the subject of the fight itself. Is it really that big? Sometimes people say things out of anger and they don't really mean them. It is the anger that drives them to that edge. Ask yourself, "What made her to become that angry to say what she wasn't supposed to say? Whatever she said, is really worth of wasting our lives spending over it in anger and despair?"
Then think of a solution. Is there any solution to the issue? Maybe you need to ask for advice for the solution, or maybe you already have the solution.
Trust me! You will be at a lot more better position if you don't respond at spot and do what I told you to do.

Relationships are not easy. Not even 2 persons in the world are alike. Everybody has to compromise something in order to have a great relationship. Cherrish it and take care of it like a treasure. Do not deal with it when you are angery.

Wish you all joy, happiness and the most beautiful relatioship with your loved ones. .