Do you want to save your relationship?

You feel something is not right. He is not returning your calls as often as before. He keeps putting you on hold while talking on the phone. He leaves the conversations early or ends them quick.

What would you do? Try to confront them?

Don't do that. Look back and try to figure it out by yourself, on what went wrong?

Try to surprise him with some changes in the areas you think might have pushed him away.

Have you scared him off with your baggage?

Try to show him that your baggage is yours and he does not have to be worried for that.

Do you complain a lot?

Try to be fun and cheerful next time you talk to him.

Do you live with other people in a same place?

Try to make him to understand the advantages of that, or make him to understand that you are planning to have your own place if things work out.

The list can go on and on..

Do not try to confront them right away. that will push them even farther away.

Without making a fuss, just simply try to change the things that you guess might have caused the problem. If nothing worked, then try to talk it out and ask them if there is anything particular they are missing in their relationship with you.

Patience is the key to many things. Wish you all success in your relationships and love life.

How do you deal with anger?

She just said something. Ooops! She should have never said that. You are so angry you can't even see anything. You want to break everything around you. You want to ...you want to....! STOP!
Stop and wait. Hold your breath. Close your eyes. Turn around if you can. Sit or liedown if you can. Keep telling yourself, "Stop! Stop! Stop!..." Don't say it outloud. Just keep repeating it to yourself. Do not deal with it at spot. Bite your tongue. Force yourself not to respond.
If she is not leaving you in peace and keeps asking for respond, just tell her this: "Right or wrong, I am angry now! I don't want to say anything to regret afterwards. I suggest you to do the same!" If she continued, leave the room. If you are stuck in the same place, just turn around, or look away, and keep repeating it to her, until she gives up.
Don't worry! You will not forget the event. You will remember it and you will respond to it. You will respond to it, but in a better condition. When you are still angry but you are not like a bowl of boiling water anymore.
Everybody knows that they can make better decisions when they are not emotional.
When you are back to the subject to respond, or when you are thinking about it on how to respond, always think, "What brought us together at the first place? Was that love? Where is that love now? How long we have been together? Are there attachments in our relationship? Is there any child involved? How would they react if they see us like this? How does that affect their future? What you 2 have done for each other throughout your relationship."
And the subject of the fight itself. Is it really that big? Sometimes people say things out of anger and they don't really mean them. It is the anger that drives them to that edge. Ask yourself, "What made her to become that angry to say what she wasn't supposed to say? Whatever she said, is really worth of wasting our lives spending over it in anger and despair?"
Then think of a solution. Is there any solution to the issue? Maybe you need to ask for advice for the solution, or maybe you already have the solution.
Trust me! You will be at a lot more better position if you don't respond at spot and do what I told you to do.

Relationships are not easy. Not even 2 persons in the world are alike. Everybody has to compromise something in order to have a great relationship. Cherrish it and take care of it like a treasure. Do not deal with it when you are angery.

Wish you all joy, happiness and the most beautiful relatioship with your loved ones. .

Do you believe in soulmates?

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I do. This is a story a friend of mine told me back a few years ago.
"I used to dream about this one guy from when I was 16 years old. The guy used to grow up along with me as I was growing older. I got married with love, and got 3 children. I never left my hometown. I almost knew everybody in my small town. It happened that I lost my husband in a tragic car accident at age 37. A few years later, I was walking out of a diner and I ran to this guy!
There he was! Starring at me eye to eye. The way he was looking at me was exactly as he was as shocked as I was. Had he seen me in his dreams too? I never got to find that out though.
Here is my advice to you. When you run to your Mr. or Mrs. right, do not delay and do not have a second thought. You need to go for it. If it worked, then it is meant to be and if not, then it was never meant to be. This way at least you will not keep blaming yourself and wasting your life wondering, "What would have happened if I would have stepped forward?"
That was what I did. I, exploding with tension inside but keeping a calm face, walked to my car and started the car. Then I told myself, "Hey idiot! What are you doing? Go back and try to talk to him!" So I ran back inside the diner. He was not there. I looked everywhere in that street. He was vanished like he was never existed at the first place. There! I lost my one and only chance to meet and possibly be with my soulmate, and I lost it in the thin air.
The only thing comforting me is the thought that maybe it was never meant to be and I was supposed to run to him only to see him with my own eyes, and we were never meant to be together.
Who knows, maybe I run to him once more. I don't know what my sudden reaction will be, but I know this that I do not plan on running away next time. If there ever be a next time, of course."

As far as I know, she still lives in the same town and she has never again seen her dream guy. Yet!

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